2019-09-17 19:59:55 UTC
Q: My first marriage dissolved when our son who's very sweet and happy was just shy of three. He hasn't seen his father since and never asks about him. The child support checks abruptly stopped a couple of months ago and I subsequently learned he committed suicide. I suppose I should tell my son, who is now seven, that his father is dead, but should I tell him he took his own life?
When it comes to giving a child information of a "sensitive" nature, the operative rule is "Tell a child ONLY what he NEEDS to know and ONLY when he NEEDS to know it."
Applying that rule to the situation at hand, an argument can be made that your son doesn't even need to know his father is dead. Given the fact that he never asks about him, I think you could wait until he's older, even a teenager. Even then, there is no point in telling your son the specifics of his father's demise. You risk nothing by leaving that out. You risk something by adding it in.