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Ben Dillingham, 72, California political player; LGBY activist; veteran, Vietnam War
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2017-11-25 05:52:41 UTC
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http://beta.latimes.com/local/obituaries/la-me-ben-dillingham-20171120-story.html

Gay rights activist and political power broker Ben Dillingham dies at 72

By John Wilkens

Nov 20, 2017 | 8:20 AM

Ben Dillingham, a retired Marine who became a political power broker clearing a path for pioneering gay office holders in Southern California, has died at his home in San Diego. He was 72.



"He was the lodestar for those of us aspiring to serve in politics," said state Sen. Toni Atkins (D-San Diego), who in 2014 became the first lesbian speaker of the state Assembly.













Dillingham died Thursday after battling pancreatic cancer.



Dillingham became the top aide for San Diego Mayor Maureen O'Connor after her election in 1986 and soon was "a beacon" to others, according to Christine Kehoe, a City Hall staffer elected to the City Council in 1993, the first acknowledged gay elected official in city history and later a state legislator.











"He was a role model," Kehoe said in a statement. "Ben never lost his Marine bearing, no matter what controversy swept through his office."



Dillingham later became a leader in community organizations dedicated to LGBT rights and to the fight against AIDS, which claimed the lives of three of his partners.



"Until we all come out of the closet," he once said, "it will not be safe for any of us."

Benjamin Franklin Dillingham III was born on May 23, 1945, in Honolulu, the descendant of a wealthy railroad and construction family.

He went to boarding school in Massachusetts and then to Harvard, where he got a degree in economics and an MBA.

During the Vietnam War, he served in the Marines as a reconnaissance platoon leader and was awarded a Bronze Star. He continued his military career at the Marine Corps Recruit Depot in San Diego, eventually retiring after eight years as a captain.

He went to work for General Dynamics and then became the chief financial officer for the Metropolitan Transit Development Board, which is where he met O'Connor.

In a statement, the former mayor called him "a dear friend and soul mate for over 35 years" and said his contributions to the community "are dwarfed only by his humility."

As O'Connor's gatekeeper, Dillingham had a reputation for toughness in his dealings with people trying to win the mayor's favor on various issues.

But he also was loyal to his co-workers, once taking a cut in pay so that others in the office could get raises.

"I can still keep my image as an SOB," he told a reporter at the time. "If I'm really a pussycat, that's between me and God and maybe it will help me get into heaven."

Among his honors: grand marshal of the Pride parade, the Harvey Milk Civil Rights Award, and the Crystal Torch from the Human Rights Campaign. The Veterans Wall at the LGBT Community Center is co-named after him.

"Ben was truly one of a kind," county Supervisor Ron Roberts said in a statement, "a dedicated, principled and driven man whose tireless work ethic was unmatched, and whose generosity to our community and loyalty to friends were endless and unwavering."

Dillingham is survived by his mother, Mrs. Andrew Dillingham; sisters Ceseli Foster and Lorie Rosenwald; and brother Henry Dillingham II.
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2017-11-25 12:44:09 UTC
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LGBY?
Michael OConnor
2017-11-25 16:45:42 UTC
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LGBY?
I can't keep up with all the letters anymore, it's starting to resemble Scrabble. However, I think it's not truly inclusive anymore if it doesn't have a 2 and a plus sign (+) in it, which makes it look more like a mathematical equation. You can get in a lot of trouble these days if you are not using the most up to date terminology, which is seemingly changing and evolving every day. I think the current term that includes everybody under the giant rainbow is 2LGBTQIA+.
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2017-11-25 16:57:26 UTC
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I prefer normal vs fucked up.
Louis Epstein
2017-11-26 07:21:53 UTC
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LGBY?
I can't keep up with all the letters anymore, it's starting to resemble
Scrabble. However, I think it's not truly inclusive anymore if it
doesn't have a 2 and a plus sign (+) in it, which makes it look more
like a mathematical equation. You can get in a lot of trouble these
days if you are not using the most up to date terminology, which is
seemingly changing and evolving every day. I think the current term
that includes everybody under the giant rainbow is 2LGBTQIA+.
Wait a minute,that doesn't seem to include Pansexuals,Otherkin,
Demisexuals...

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Michael OConnor
2017-11-26 16:15:34 UTC
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Post by Michael OConnor
LGBY?
I can't keep up with all the letters anymore, it's starting to resemble
Scrabble. However, I think it's not truly inclusive anymore if it
doesn't have a 2 and a plus sign (+) in it, which makes it look more
like a mathematical equation. You can get in a lot of trouble these
days if you are not using the most up to date terminology, which is
seemingly changing and evolving every day. I think the current term
that includes everybody under the giant rainbow is 2LGBTQIA+.
Wait a minute,that doesn't seem to include Pansexuals,Otherkin,
Demisexuals...
The + sign includes everybody else. Keep in mind there are now (the last time I checked) 92 genders, and while every one of them has one of those symbols such as the circle with the plus sign attached to it, not every one is those genders is important enough to get a letter or now a number. Not to mention there just aren't enough letters or numbers or punctuation symbols or mathematical symbols out there to cover each and every gender.
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2017-11-26 18:23:49 UTC
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It’s funny that when it comes to sex and gender liberals are so ANTI SCIENCE
Louis Epstein
2017-11-28 00:23:03 UTC
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LGBY?
I can't keep up with all the letters anymore, it's starting to resemble
Scrabble. However, I think it's not truly inclusive anymore if it
doesn't have a 2 and a plus sign (+) in it, which makes it look more
like a mathematical equation. You can get in a lot of trouble these
days if you are not using the most up to date terminology, which is
seemingly changing and evolving every day. I think the current term
that includes everybody under the giant rainbow is 2LGBTQIA+.
Wait a minute,that doesn't seem to include Pansexuals,Otherkin,
Demisexuals...
The + sign includes everybody else. Keep in mind there are now (the
last time I checked) 92 genders, and while every one of them has one of
those symbols such as the circle with the plus sign attached to it, not
every one is those genders is important enough to get a letter or now a
number. Not to mention there just aren't enough letters or numbers or
punctuation symbols or mathematical symbols out there to cover each and
every gender.
So what criteria are used to decide who gets a letter,
and how are they not prejudiced?
You have the Queer and Questioning sharing one Q,
and the T apparently is shared by
Transsexuals,
Transgenders,
Transvestites,
Transabled (aka BIID),
Therians...

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The World Trade Center towers MUST rise again,
at least as tall as before...or terror has triumphed.
Michael OConnor
2017-11-28 01:33:01 UTC
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So what criteria are used to decide who gets a letter,
and how are they not prejudiced?
You have the Queer and Questioning sharing one Q,
and the T apparently is shared by
Transsexuals,
Transgenders,
Transvestites,
Transabled (aka BIID),
Therians...
I think Queer and Questioning are two different Q's, but I'm not sure which one is being referenced above. In the news story below, both Q's are being utilized, and this time, they are lumping all the similar letters together. This one is LGGBDTTTIAQQAAP, which you can't even do with Scrabble since Scrabble only has one letter Q in the game. This is for a sensitivity training class for elementary school teachers in Canada so that they properly and correctly deal with fellow teachers and elementary school students who may fall into one of the various categories:

https://pjmedia.com/trending/teachers-attend-lggbdtttiqqaap-sensitivity-training-wtf/
Louis Epstein
2017-11-28 19:12:08 UTC
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Post by Louis Epstein
So what criteria are used to decide who gets a letter,
and how are they not prejudiced?
You have the Queer and Questioning sharing one Q,
and the T apparently is shared by
Transsexuals,
Transgenders,
Transvestites,
Transabled (aka BIID),
Therians...
https://pjmedia.com/trending/teachers-attend-lggbdtttiqqaap-sensitivity-training-wtf/
So what's the "2" for?
The "Two-Spirit" name coined in 1973 for gender-confused members of
tribes native to America before Europeans visited it?

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The World Trade Center towers MUST rise again,
at least as tall as before...or terror has triumphed.

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