Post by firstname.lastname@example.org Post by Sarah Ehrett
Cathy mocked *you* because you wrote you didn't know for months a
close and good friend had died. You got your feelings hurt. AO
isn't a hug smooch kiss newsgroup. Get over it marcus. Sometimes
you have the emotional maturity of a 4 year old who's goldfish died.
I have no knowledge of the events in question but your comments, especially using the term "a close and good friend" reminds me of the old standup comedy group I used to visit 15 years ago. It was a really active and fun spot. But every so often someone would post about someone dying or being ill and in the hospital, and it never failed to make me laugh and also sicken me when others would post responses such as, "Oh my God, no, one of my dearest friends - does anyone have his telephone number or know how I can get in touch with him?"
That always made me laugh. Now I realize of course that a person can really like or even love another person they haven't seen or heard from in a while, but the term "friend" is really overused, even back before Facebook took it to a higher and more disgusting level. And when someone would die the condolences would roll in one after the other, almost all of them the same - "He will be missed", or, "There will never be another like him", or whatever. I don't mind condolences but it was a comedy newsgroup and I would have preferred, and sometimes got, actual stories about the dead or ill person rather than just a few cursory words of imitative sorrow.
Jazee, since you have no knowledge of things in question, let me explain.
Like many of us, I no longer live where I grew up, but I have maintained friendships with many people who I knew from childhood and teenage years. Also, people from college. With the advent of the internet, in the 1990s, I was able to keep in touch with people I always kept in touch with AND also people I renewed friendships. When I did visit my old hometown and surrounding area, I visited a multitude of friends and kept in touch with them my email, instant messenger etc.
I have paid tribute to friends of mine who have died and placed thoss tributes on alt.obituaries because #1, I wanted to and #2, I've seen other posters do the same about friends and relatives.
I count at least a half dozen or so friends (including my brother-in-law) where cathy has responded in a cruel and disrespectful manner to the death of people I was grieving. In most cases, the standard lines from cathy in response were, "who cares?" and "he is probably glad he died so he doesn't have to know you anymore". I guess I should be "grateful" that he refrained from such insults when I posted about my parents' deaths (2009 and 2012).
The friend that Sarah is referring is one of those friends that I had renewed a friendship with around 2000 or so. We emailed a lot, spoke on the phone, exchanged photos and chatted on Yahoo Messenger. I knew him since elementary school, jr high, and high school. We lived within a mile of each other, and we use to hang out together. He retired at a fairly early age and traveled a lot. He started having some physical problems about a year or so before he died. They didn't appear to be life threatening (at least he didn't tell me they were). I was becoming an active grandparent, we didn't communicate as much. When I realized that I hadn't heard from him in a few months, I sent him an email. His brother saw the email and then replied that he had died. Why no one else had told me before that, I don't know, except that I didn't have any mutual email buddies with him.
So, I wrote a short remembrance about him and posted on alt.obituaries. My one mistake (in hindsight) was stating that I had just found out about my friend's death. This was like throwing raw meat to a hyena, and cathy made his comments that the person couldn't possibly be a friend if I didn't know the same day that the he died.
What you have to realize, jazee, is that cathy is a mean, heartless, miserable, despicable, misanthrope who constantly mocks and ridicules people here. It's not just me that he does this to. However, he has done it many times. I no longer post about any one who has died that I knew personally. I don't want to receive cathy's constant cruelty.
Oh, and one more thing...Sarah Ehrett is little more than a cathy sycophant.